1. There are such things as “girl business” where only your mom or other older females in the family should help you with
Daughter to a single dad here…
There was this myth I discovered when I was young. It’s something almost all my female friends were told, but thankfully not me. The myth is the belief that there are such things as “girl business” where only your mom or other older females in the family should help you with.
As the only girl in the house growing up my dad helped me understand and deal with a great many “girl business” problems. Meanwhile all my friends had their moms to handle it for them. When my friends found out my dad was sort of in charge of handling those with me they were shocked. They asked me why I didn’t have an aunt or grandma to help instead. Well, my aunts all live at least ten hours away and grandma is even further.
I began to realize over the years that there might actually be negative side effects to this “girls only” way of thinking. Sure, having another female assist you with those issues might be less awkward and embarrassing, but there’s already an inherent awkwardness and embarrassment associated with it. Learning to overcome the embarrassment is part of growing up and accepting your body.
Furthermore, I have since grown up and began studying psychology, and done some research into this further for my studies. I’d have to do a more in depth and wide reaching survey and analysis to come to findings I’d be comfortable with being peer reviewed, but I have a theory that the “girls only” mentality causes relationship issues later in life. Young girls grow up thinking that there are some aspects of womanhood men not only don’t understand but can’t understand. It makes them not only less trusting of male partners, but also keeps them from seeing man as equals when it comes to parenting.
Sure, if you’re a mom of a young girl there’s no reason for you to not continue helping her with all the complex feminine issues she’s going through. Just be careful not to make her think her dad doesn’t empathize or understand too. Don’t make him this distant third party who will never get it, or someone who should not be involved because he has a penis. That’s the same toxic female attitude that causes soccer moms to call the cops on a dad when he takes his daughter to the park to play. Men can parent too, and they’re surprisingly good at raising young girls on their own.